Our Mother of Sorrows

There is a Place for You Here!

5000 Mt. Read Blvd.

Rochester, NY 14612


Parish Office Hours:

Wednesday, 9:00 am – 3:00 pm

Parish Office

(585) 663-5432

December 4, 2022

“As I Walk This Way”

Dear Parishioners,

We are pleased and honored to have two guest homilists visit our community of HC+OMOS this weekend. Deacon Alexander DeLucenay and Deacon Edward Giblin will offer their reflections on the readings, and share with us their updates on their ministry. Their generous ministry to the Diocese of Rochester reminds us of the importance of the Catholic Ministry Appeal. We are making great progress on our two goals, one at HC and one at OMOS. If you have not made your contribution to the appeal yet, I encourage you to do so soon, so that we can reach both goals by this Christmas. Thank you!

This coming week we will gather with students from Holy Cross School and offer the Sacrament of Reconciliation on Tuesday. Prior to this Fr. Joseph Martuscello, Seminarian David Cataline and I have been visiting the various HC class rooms and teaching about the celebration of the Mass.

Whenever I visit our school at Holy Cross I am so impressed with our students and dedicated faculty and staff. The students share their Faith in Jesus Christ and respect for others. We are truly Blessed to have a school that forms disciples of Jesus Christ.

This coming Wednesday, December 7 marks one year since Fr. Thomas Wheeland entered into Eternal Life. We are all so grateful for the positive impact he had on our lives and on our local community of faith. May he rest in peace. +

Join us for one of the Holy Day Masses for the Immaculate Conception. Please check the list of Mass times in this bulletin.

Save the Date: “Finding Healing in the Presence of Christ” We will have individual confessions on Wednesday, December 21 from 2:00 PM to 6:00 PM at Holy Cross. This will take place during our regular Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament. We will not have confessions on Saturday, December 24 since it is Christmas eve.

Peace to you during these Advent days. Come Lord Jesus. In Christ,   

Fr. Coffas, Pastor of Holy Cross and Our Mother of Sorrows

Pastoral Planning Task Force Update

The 2022-23 blue Advent Reflection books are in and now available to pick up at all the Masses; One per family please. If you do not attend weekend Masses, therewill also be books available during the week of November 27 when the church is open for Mass or Adoration.

2023 Sunday Missals NOW available at the entrances of both churches. Please only ONE per household.

The Choral season has begun! The Adult Choir performs at the 10 AM Masses at HC and 11 AM Masses at OMOS on a rotating schedule. The Resurrection Choir assists with all funerals at HC and OMOS. The Contemporary Music Ensemble provides the music for 5pm Masses at HC. Instrumentalists perform for the 4pm Masses at OMOS.

Interested in joining our ensembles or becoming a cantor?

We would love to hear from you! Please contact Dr. Beata Golec at 585-201-2112 or beata.golec@dor.org for more information and the rehearsal schedule.

Need a Piano?

The new grand piano in the Holy Cross parish center is replacing the existing, spinet piano there. This spinet is free, to a loving home. If you are interested, please contact Beata Golec at Beata.Golec@dor,org or 663-5432, x124. It will be first come, first served and you will need to make arrangements to move it.

Prayer for our Cluster

God Our Father,

Your Son, Jesus Christ, is “the way, the truth and the life” and His Holy Cross is the bridge of Mercy.

Help us, your servants to build a bridge of nourishment to the hungry, a bridge of comfort to the suffering, a bridge of welcome to the lonely, a bridge of collaboration to the our sister parish, and a bridge of faith to all people through Your Sacraments. For You live and reign for ever and ever. Amen.

Our Mother of Sorrows pray for us. +

Prayer for Vocations

Lord Jesus Christ, shepherd of souls, who called the apostles to be fishers of men, raise up new apostles in your holy Church. Teach them that to serve you is to reign: to possess you is to possess all things. Kindle in the hearts of our young people the fire of zeal for souls. Make them eager to spread your kingdom upon the earth. Grant them the courage to follow you, who are the Way, the Truth and the Life, who live and reign for evert and ever.  Amen



Prayer Requests

Do you have a prayer request or need to pray for a special intention? If a parishioner calls the OMOS prayer line at 247-5912, the prayer intention will then be shared with a chain of parishioners who will pray for that intention.

“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:20

OR Click here to complete an online form.




An Invitation from the Legion of Mary

We would like to invite you to become a member of the Legion of Mary.

Please join us on Tuesday mornings after the 8:00 AM Mass at Our Mother of Sorrows Church.

 See more details.

Please Visit the Spirituality Corner on the Holy Cross Church website. It includes Reflections on Sunday Readings, Questions to Ponder, and Growing with the Gospel for Children.


Italy & Amalfi Pilgrimage

11 Days May 1 – 11, 2023 $3,779/person from NY

Pilgrimage visiting Florence, Assisi, Sorrento, Amalfi Coastline, Pompeii. Nettuno, (home of St. Maria Goretti) and Rome.

This trip by Nawas International is hosted by Fr. John F. Gagnier of St. Elizabeth Ann Seton Parish in Hamlin. Price includes most meals, hotels, transportation and transfers, and local tour director.

For information see: https://www.myseas.org/pdf/Italy2023.pdf

A friendly reminder:

Fr. Bill Coffas does not ask people to buy gift cards. Please do not respond to any requests like this. It is simply a scam.

Please note: the message below was recently sent out but is not from Fr. Coffas:

Great thanks i need 10 qty eBay gift cards for $200 each (total $2000) . You should get them at any store around. After you get them, scratch the back and take clear pictures of each card and send it to me here. I will handle the distribution of the cards to each staff accordingly. This should remain confidential until each of them gets their card. Please keep the physical cards and receipt for reference purposes. You will be fully reimbursed.

ALSO Please note: the message below was recently sent out but is not from Fr. Coffas:

Let Me Know When You Are Not Busy Via Email. 
Best Regards…..
Fr. William Coffas

Please DO NOT respond to any email supposedly from me asking for gift cards or money.

Fr Wiliam G. Coffas

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If You are Watching Mass on Facebook

To Follow the Readings: Copy and paste the letters: https://bible.usccb.org/ or scan the QR code from the screen. This takes you to the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops web site which will have all the Daily/Weekend Readings. You will then be able to follow the readings while watching on Facebook.

Our Mass Schedule

  • Monday 8:00 AM Mass at HC
  • Tuesday 8:00 AM Mass at OMOS
  • Wednesday 8:00 AM Mass at OMOS
  • Thursday 5:30 PM Mass at HC
  • Friday 5:30 PM Mass at HC
  • Saturday 8:00 AM Mass at OMOS
  • Saturday, 4:00 PM Weekend Mass
  • Sunday, 8:30 AM & 11:00 AM Weekend Mass
  •  Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament is held on the First Friday of every month.

The 4:00 PM weekend Mass from Our Mother of Sorrows Church is available to view on our Facebook page. Just click the blue button on the top center of this page, and you will be redirected to view the Mass.

Reconciliation, Saturdays, 2:30 – 3:30 PM

The church is open every day, 7:00 AM- 3:00 PM.


Opening for a Full-Time Pastoral Associate

Details here.

Open to All Teenagers in High School Join us THIS Friday, December 2.

See more details here.

Upcoming Gatherings:

December 16 . January 6 and 20 . February 3 and 17 . March 3 and 17

See more details here.

Christmas is coming quicker than we think! Let our Holy Cross Tweens & Teens get you into the  Holiday Spirit.

Breakfast with Santa

THIS Saturday, December 3,        9 to 11 AM in School Cafeteria

$15 Family of 4 suggested donation

Children 2 & under: Free

  • Delicious Pancake Breakfast & Crafts
  • Pictures with Santa too!

Get your tickets Call Donna J at 261-5552 to request tickets or you may buy them at the door that morning! Santa loves “kids” of all ages so bring your friends and join in the fun!

 Rescheduled “Surviving the Holidays”

THIS Wednesday, December 7 in Our Mother of Sorrows Parish Hall. Choose the 2:00 PM or 7:30 PM program offering, or both. Each will run for 2 hours.  

Grieving the loss of a loved one over the holiday season is a most challenging and painful experience. The Grieving With Great Hope team invites those who would like to find healing, in the presence of Christ, to join this 2-hour program, which offers coping strategies for situations which may arise at this most vulnerable time. No previous attendance at a grieving program is needed. Social distancing and masks recommended and are available.

Space is limited. Please contact: Ann Marie Lagonegro 585-269-9456 or Ruth Tripp 585-203-7535.

Feast of the Immaculate Conception of the Blessed Virgin Mary

Holy Day of Obligation 

Mass of Anticipation, Wednesday, December 7 at 6:30 PM at OMOS

Thursday, December 8 at 8:00 AM at OMOS, 9:00 AM School Mass at HC,      and 5:30 PM at HC

At Our Mother of Sorrows we continue to be a bridge to our community and continue to evangelize and serve others through our Giving Tree ministry. This year, there are changes in the stars (in the communities served and the  process). The stars this year will represent our continued efforts to help at Catholic Charities Community Services and new this year, the community at Holy Cross School. Please take a star and bring your unwrapped gift (please unwrapped – another change for this year) with the star affixed to the bag by the weekend of December 10/11. In your bag, please enclose a Christmas card and invite the person or family to celebrate Christmas Mass here at Our Mother of Sorrows. Let them know you are praying for them.


The Blessing of the Bambinelli

Join the Holy Father’s Tradition –NEXT Weekend, December 10/11. The Blessing of the Bambinelli is a Roman tradition, celebrated by the Pope each year on the third Sunday of Advent. This year once again we will invite our people to bring the image of the Baby Jesus to Church on the 3rd Sunday of Advent for a blessing.

Holy Grounds Café 

NEXT Sunday, Dec 11  

After the 8:30 AM Mass in the Church Hall 

Coffee/Doughnuts and Conversation

We invite you to come for our Holy Grounds Café. We’ll have coffee, doughnuts, and a table with activities available for kids. Jesus regularly invited his friends to share food and conversation. We are called to follow His example and get to know each other to build a strong community. We look forward to seeing you! 

Mass Books Open NOW for January through April 30, 2023.

The Stipend for a Mass Intention is $10.


Includes Instructions for Offerings for the Bread & Wine, and Sanctuary Candle

Offerings for the Bread, Wine, and Sanctuary Candle

You can request these throughout the year. The offering is $15 for either Bread & Wine combined, or the Sanctuary Candle. These requests must be submitted in writing with check or cash payment. Please include the following information: Person to be memorialized, your name, phone number and the date requested. If you would like an acknowledgment sent, please include the name and address of the recipient for the card.

Diocese of Rochester Permanent Diaconate

The deacon is a man of faith, who is called from the community that already recognizes his dedication to service. He makes a lifetime commitment to serving the People of God by proclaiming the Word, assisting and presiding at liturgies, and ministering in the areas of charity and social justice. A deacon gives witness to his availability to the community by addressing present and emerging needs of the Church.

The Diocese is inviting interested men of strong and active faith, who can demonstrate a record of service in the communities in which they live, work and worship, who may wish to explore a possible call to ordained ministry as a permanent deacon, to first speak with their pastor for an initial conversation. They may also contact Deacon Edward Giblin, Director of the Office of the Permanent Diaconate, at edward.giblin@dor.org, for additional information.

A Note from Fr Coffas regarding Covid-19 Procedures for Masses

Under the guidance of medical professionals, we are asking parishioners to help us protect our most vulnerable members by respecting the following guidelines.

Masking: The wearing of face masks is STRONGLY ENCOURAGED AND RECOMMENDED, but not required for those entering church. HOWEVER, the wearing of facemasks will be REQUIRED in the sections of church designated for social distancing.

Social Distancing: The halves of church that have been marked off for social distancing will remain in place. Those seated in these areas are required to keep their mouth and nose covered the whole time that they are in church.

Hand Sanitizing: We will continue to ask all those entering church to utilize the available hand sanitizer.

Please know that we will continue to monitor the situation and keep you updated. Thank you for your continued patience and cooperation as we navigate this difficult time.


There is a place for you here.

We’re so happy that you visited our page. We welcome those visiting us for the first time, and we appreciate all of the people of our parish.

Our site will acquaint you with our parish family and help you get to know us via the Web. Please join us to worship, visit, pray, volunteer, or come to an event. If you have any questions, please contact us at 585-663-5432, ext. 10 or send an e-mail to MOS@dor.org.


We welcome all newcomers and invite you to register as members of our parish family. We want to know each one of you personally. Please give us a call at 585-663-5432, ext. 10, or send an email to MOS@dor.org to make registration arrangements.

1st Reconciliation & 1st Communion

Faith Formation Update & Registration Forms

Diocesan Chapter 11 Bankruptcy Update

Diocesan News Release Nov 3, 2022

Letter to the Faithful


Our Mother of Sorrows office is open on Wednesdays 9:00 AM-3:00 PM.

On the other days, our amazing ministry team will be responding to email and voice mail as they have been doing over the past year. We are truly blessed to have such an amazing team.

Funeral Planning

Funeral Ministry Request Line (585) 208-3422

Begin planning here.


Welcome Desk

We debut our “Welcome Desk” at Our Mother of Sorrows this weekend, November 26/27. For 20 minutes before and after Mass this desk will be available for people to request a Mass card, gain more information on volunteer opportunities, leave a message for a staff member, or register to join the parish.

Stop by and check it out!


St Francis Food Pantry OPEN

5000 Mt Read Blvd- back of the building                  Food for families in the North Greece area.

Food donations are greatly appreciated and may be left inside the church doors.

OPEN: 2nd Wednesday of month, Third Wednesday of month, Fourth Saturday of month. Operated in cooperation with Foodlink

We would like to thank all that have contributed and left food at Church for the Pantry. We are currently serving approximately 150 families. The most common food we are in need of is Pasta Sauce, Spaghetti and Peanut Butter. Again thanks for all you do to help us!

Food Drop Off Area Moved

We are getting more food these days at OMOS for the food cupboard so we will be moving the food drop off place in the gathering space at OMOS to the side hallway of the main entrance into the OMOS Church, (on the tile floor) that is opposite the windows that overlook Our Lady of Fatima’s Grotto. The small table, the shopping chart and bags will also be moved. This is the same place we used to have a lending library in the past. Thank you for all your support for the Food Cupboard.



Family Prayer with Jesus the High Priest for Vocations