Our Mother of Sorrows

There is a Place for You Here!

5000 Mt. Read Blvd.

Rochester, NY 14612


Parish Office Hours:

Wednesday, 9:00 am – 3:00 pm

Parish Office

(585) 663-5432

February 5, 2023

“As I Walk This Way”

Dear Parishioners,

Today I would like to mention our funeral ministry. A funeral, a Mass of Christian burial, is about a person, a person who loved, and was loved, a person who laughed and cried, a person who ate and also fed others. That person is Jesus Christ. The funeral Mass celebrates our belief that Jesus Christ lived, died and rose to life again. The exclusive focus of a funeral Mass is not on the person who died, but rather that person’s faith in Jesus Christ.

This is an insight of which we sometimes have to remind people. Since the Mass of Christian burial is about the person of Jesus Christ, this impacts the music that is chosen, what is said during the words of remembrance, and how the liturgy is conducted.

The music that is played is sacred music and calls our attention to God. A favorite song of the deceased, that is not a Church Hymn should be played at the social gathering after the conclusion of the burial rites. The words of remembrance are to focus on the deceased’s faith in, and love of, the person of Jesus Christ. Sadly, it has happened that people have shared inappropriate comments during the words of remembrance, such as stories related to gambling, drinking and others. When I hear these things, I have to wonder, what does a visitor to our church think of such things being mentioned and even promoted in Church. That is why, prior to a person offering the words of remembrance, I have a conversation with that person. During the conversation I first offer my condolences and say that I am praying for the family. I also clearly state my expectations for the words of remembrance. I am pleased to say that when this conversation occurs, the words of remembrance are appropriate and focused on faith. I also state that the words of remembrance are to be 5-7 minutes in length and given by one person.    

I will continue this explanation on the Rites of Christian Burial next weekend. I encourage you to read Bishop Matano’s Sacramental Guidelines that offer more detail on the Rites of Christian burial. https://www.dor.org/tasks/sites/home/assets/File/SacramentalGuidelines_Section6_8_9_Combo.pdf

I am also pleased to announce that we will have a Lenten Mission this year with our neighboring parishes on February 23, 24 at 6:30 PM and February 25 at 8:15 AM. The Mission will be focused on the Eucharistic Revival and Bishop Matano will lead the sessions. More information on dates, times and location are in this bulletin. In Christ,

Fr. Coffas, Pastor

Holy Cross & Our Mother of Sorrows

Pastoral Planning Task Force Update

CPR Training

If anyone from our Ministries, would be interested in learning CPR and                  Defibrator Training, please email Donna Petrella at Donna.Petrella@dor.org. The training will be held at Our Mother of Sorrows Parish Hall with refreshments! Once we have enough participants, Donna will be in touch with a date and time.

Prayerful, Practical and Personal Grief Support

Learn More…

Grieving with Great Hope is a six-week grief support workshop series that offers a prayerful, practical and personal approach for anyone who is mourning the loss of a loved one. Program is free and all are welcome. 

Wednesdays, from 12:30 to 2:30 PM
February 15 through March 22, 2023

Holy Cross Church Parish Center—enter at the back of church

Information and Registration materials are available in the Narthex of Our Mother of Sorrows and the table in the Parish Center Foyer at Holy Cross.

Registration may also be done via phone to OMOS office at 663-5432 OR to HC office at 663-2244. 


Legion of Mary

Tuesdays, following 8:00 AM Mass

We would like to invite you to become a member of the Legion of Mary.

Learn More…

The Legion of Mary would like to start an evening group. Anyone interested should contact Joan Stanton at 663-0371.

OMOS Prayer Shawl Ministry

Learn More…

The OMOS/Holy Cross Prayer Shaw Ministry meets the fourth Wednesday of the month downstairs in the hall at OMOS from 1:00 – 3:00 PM. We will gather together on the following dates: February 22; March 22; April 26; May 24; June 28; July 26; August 23; September 27; and October 25. We do not meet in November or December.

Interested? Questions? Please call Alice at 227-5879.



Meals On Wheels          Needs Volunteers 

to deliver meals to residents in the City of Rochester! Partner with your friend, spouse, family member or neighbor, and volunteer to deliver hot meals, warm smiles, independence, and peace of mind to those in need!

Information on how you can get started volunteering can be found on our website at www.homecare.urmc.edu under the Service and Specialties Programs tab or by calling the Volunteer Services office at 274-4385.

Interested in joining our ensembles or becoming a cantor?

We would love to hear from you! Please contact Dr. Beata Golec at 585-201-2112 or beata.golec@dor.org for more information and the rehearsal schedule.


Prayer for our Cluster

God Our Father,

Your Son, Jesus Christ, is “the way, the truth and the life” and His Holy Cross is the bridge of Mercy.

Help us, your servants to build a bridge of nourishment to the hungry, a bridge of comfort to the suffering, a bridge of welcome to the lonely, a bridge of collaboration to the our sister parish, and a bridge of faith to all people through Your Sacraments. For You live and reign for ever and ever. Amen.

Our Mother of Sorrows pray for us. +

Prayer for Vocations

Lord Jesus Christ, shepherd of souls, who called the apostles to be fishers of men, raise up new apostles in your holy Church. Teach them that to serve you is to reign: to possess you is to possess all things. Kindle in the hearts of our young people the fire of zeal for souls. Make them eager to spread your kingdom upon the earth. Grant them the courage to follow you, who are the Way, the Truth and the Life, who live and reign for evert and ever.  Amen



Prayer Requests

Do you have a prayer request or need to pray for a special intention? If a parishioner calls the OMOS prayer line at 247-5912, the prayer intention will then be shared with a chain of parishioners who will pray for that intention.

“For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:20

OR Click here to complete an online form.




Please Visit the Spirituality Corner on the Holy Cross Church website. It includes Reflections on Sunday Readings, Questions to Ponder, and Growing with the Gospel for Children.


A friendly reminder:

Fr. Bill Coffas does not ask people to buy gift cards. Please do not respond to any such requests. It is simply a scam.

Also Please NOTE: Always check the e-mail address of the sender to make ure it is accurate.

Fr Wiliam G. Coffas

Diocesan Chapter 11 Bankruptcy Update

Diocesan News Release Nov 3, 2022

Letter to the Faithful


If You are Watching Mass on Facebook

To Follow the Readings: Copy and paste the letters: https://bible.usccb.org/ or scan the QR code from the screen. This takes you to the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops web site which will have all the Daily/Weekend Readings. You will then be able to follow the readings while watching on Facebook.

Our Mass Schedule

  • Monday 8:00 AM Mass at HC
  • Tuesday 8:00 AM Mass at OMOS
  • Wednesday 8:00 AM Mass at OMOS
  • Thursday 5:30 PM Mass at HC
  • Friday 5:30 PM Mass at HC
  • Saturday 8:00 AM Mass at OMOS
  • Saturday, 4:00 PM Weekend Mass
  • Sunday, 8:30 AM & 11:00 AM Weekend Mass
  •  Adoration of the Blessed Sacrament is held on the First Friday of every month.

The 4:00 PM weekend Mass from Our Mother of Sorrows Church is available to view on our Facebook page. Just click the blue button on the top center of this page, and you will be redirected to view the Mass.

Reconciliation, Saturdays, 2:30 – 3:30 PM

The church is open every day, 7:00 AM- 3:00 PM.


Upcoming Blood Drive is Critical

THIS Saturday, February 11, 8:30 AM ’til 1:30 PM in the HC Parish Center

Learn More…

Showing Movie THIS Saturday, February 11 at 1:15 PM in the St. John the Evangelist Parish Center, 2400 W. Ridge Rd.

The movie is 1 hr. and 55 minutes long. There is no admission, but registration is encouraged to help us plan for refreshments.

Register by calling or texting Rick Paoletti at 489-9555 with your name and number of people attending.

Servant’s Desk

St. Valentine’s Day Special at Our Mother of Sorrows

All parishioners are invited to visit the Servant’s Desk THIS weekend February 11/12 and receive a St Valentine’s Prayer card. By some accounts, St. Valentine was a Roman priest who suffered martyrdom during the persecution of Christians by Emperor Claudius II Gothicus about 270. St. Valentine was executed but people remember him and celebrate this saint’s day as a day of “LOVE.”

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-5



Valentine’s Give from Your Heart Collection

The Holy Cross Teen and Tween group will be collecting again this year to help out our community. Last year’s Teddy Bear drive was a huge success and the Rochester Police department is still using the bears we gave them. This year, the group has partnered with two groups, Happy Birthday Cha Cha Cha and The Rochester Police Department. Click here for details.

There will be two boxes set up in the Gathering Area near the Oratory. Collections will take place between Sunday, January 29, 2023 and February 12, 2023. 

Open to All Teenagers in High School Join us Friday, February 17.

See more details here.

Upcoming Gatherings:

March 3 and 17  See more details here.

Home Visitation Program 

Interested? Please contact Jennifer Lozy-Lester at Jennifer.Lozy-Lester@dor.org for more information


Will you be in grades 9 thru 12 in in 2023-24? Curious about this amazing pilgrimage? 

Questions? Please contact Cindy.Lammes@dor.org (663-5432 x 126) or Donna.Jacobi@dor.org (261-5552)

Source & Summit Retreat

Saturday, March 4, 10:00 AM—Concludes with 4:00 PM Mass